My Supports

Within my daily activity there are many people and things that are of suppot to me.

Family: My family is a major support.
My husband has been a constant support emotionally, relationship, stability and financially. My children are adults with their own lives, but I know that if I need any help I can call on them for support. My sisters and brother are also available for support in any area if I need it.

Professionally: My co-workers are supports at work. We work as a team in our classroom. Besides the people I work directly woth in the classroom I recieve support from the proncipal, office staff and human resourse staff.

Spiritually: My church family are a network of spiritual support that I depend on prehaps more than the other forementioned.
None living supports:
I think I depend more on my car than any other. My computer would be a close second.

One scenerio that sometimes crosses my mind is if I outlive everyone or for some reason end up alone. I see this with a man that has outlived his wife , children, siblings and friends. He often describes the world  unfamiliar and frieghtening. He gets very sad and cries. His only comfort is telling his stories of a live long gone to any one that will take time to listen. I think about this scnerio happening to me . I cannot imagine being without a child, sibling, or companion. The loss of support as I have come to know and live by would really decrease the quality of life for me. My hope is that I have planted seeds of support to others that will be my garden of support when I am old.

My Connection to Play

"Do not...keep children to their studies by complusion, but by play."
                                                                                     ~Plato

 " Children are never more serious than when they play."
                                                              ~MONTAIGNE, Essays

My mother was a great supporter of my play when I was young. I have two older sisters that were much taller than myself. When we played Hopscotch they would tray the pattern so big I could never make my jumps.  Of course they would always win. The days my mother was home early from work, she would draw the pattern so that I would have a chance to successful on some jumps. When my interest would change , like the time I wanted to be the best marble player. She never told me that it was a boy's game (like my sisters did), she just made me the best looking bag to hold my marbles.

The games we played as children (30 years ago)  can still be played today, like baby dolls, marbles and hopscotch, with much fun and imagination, if children are allowed outside to play them. I understand our society is very different today as it was when I was a child. All the neighborhood children gathered to play and knew automatically to go home when it was getting dark. There was always a mother around for all of us. Unfortunately, safety is a much bigger issue today than it was way-back then. More mothers are working and children have to stay inside with electrronic entertainments, like video games, internet and television.

I believe that when I was young we were allowed to run freely, explore and experiment. My favorite thing was to play school, which has followed me into adulthood. My understanding of the world I lived in prepared me with a solid understanding of the world I lived in for when I wnet to school. I was allowed to pretend, using my imagination. My brain developed my use of imagination, unlike the television thinking and telling me how to feel.

Grandfather William and Grandsons Cam, Eli and Troy

Relationship Reflection

Relationhips are important. They are part of our human design. At some point in our humanly existance we will need someone other than ourselves and be needed by some one else. Even on a higher plain, we all have the built- in need to belong to someone or something. The basic factor of any relationship is a reciprical action where one force( person )causes another to respond.That means positive and negative, large and small reactions between people. Somewhere within the vast definition of relationships we have to be conscious and intentional to develop ones that produce positive effects in our lives and the lives of those we care about.

I am thankful for several relationships in my life. I have been married to William for thirty four years. We have three children, all adults now with families of their own. We all live in the same part of Dallas and remain close. This is a picture of all of us. We all live in the same area, but in different houses. Privacy and decisions made in each household are respected. One way we manage to remain close is by allowing each other to be who they are and lead their lives as they feel they were called to do. Since we are the parents/grandparents we host Sunday dinners as times for us to get together and enjoy each other. It allows the young adults time together and grandchildren get to know each other as family. Since our children have become adults some values and beliefs have changed. We manage to remain peaceful especially with grandchildren by respecting their parents teachings .One challenge in regards to developing relationships with extended family members like daughter-in-laws, son-in-laws and parents of our children’s mates, is to respect some different beliefs on how grandchildren were raised. Holiday observance and traditions can be a touchy time. We have learned to respect decisions made for our grandchildren by their parents whether we agree or disagree. This experience in my personal life has made me more aware of differences within the households of the child I work with and all need to be respected.

Grandfather William and grandsons

Stressors for Young Children

Hurricane Katrina posed many threats to its victims other than killer winds and flooding waters. The wait for promised rescue efforts crated a dangerous and stressful time few days for young children of families stranded in the sports dome. For the family of one little girl named Bazy, six years old, the dangers presented at this designated safe place from the category five hurricane became a reality. The trauma of Bazy's encounter with a rapist in the dome's restroom, compacted with stresses of loosing their home and close relatives caused emotional damage she and her family still struggle to overcome. After being rescued and  relocated to a new home and school, Bazy became fearful and started to withdraw emotionally. Bazy's family sought psychological help for their daughter through an organization called Social Science Research Council. Through this organization's help Bazy received services to address the rape. The whole family also received help for all the psychological stresses that came along with their Katrina experience.
     This is a similar story of a young girl named Pauline, six years old, currently residing in Haiti. She also experienced rape during the chaotic aftermath of a record earthquake. The difference between Bazy's story and Pauline's story is Bazy had her family and Pauline was left orphaned by the quake. She did not have the protection or support of her family. Another difference is  Bazy's rape was a one time event, while Pauline's was an ongoing event, happening almost daily by the same man. It ended when she was found months later by an uncle that lived in a distant village. Pauline also became withdrawn and fearful to the point she stopped talking all together. The good news is, though years later, she is now receiving psychological help for Post -Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Services are provided through a psychological organization set up in their country specifically for earthquake victims. In a country that has to rebuild existence is day to day and even children are expected to contribute to their households. There is no place or afford of an emotionally delayed child. Pauline's uncle has since placed her for adoption. She now resides in an orphanage.  

Nutrition and Learning

Malnutrition is a topic that is meaningful to me from a professional perspective. Writing curriculum for young children from a humanistic perspective would include interest and concern for nutritional health. If a child is healthy early childhood is a good time to teach them about good eating habits that will have life-long  benefits.  On the other hand, if a child is suffering from malnutrition their learning will be effected.

Hunger and malnutrition has increased in Africa. No known method to solve the problem has worked so far. The most common deficiency in children under five is protein deficiency.  The particular deficiency is being treated by using food that have been donated to hospitals and daycares to feed the children

This new information has made me realize that malnutrition is not a future problem for me to address. Even before I start writing curriculum professionally I can already be working with agencies that are already established to meet these children’s needs.    

The Evloving of Childbirth Experiences

On September 3, 2008, my grandson “ Eli” was born. He is my daughter’s first child. I had the privilege of being with her during the last two months of the pregnancy, present in the birthing room when he was born and allowed the honor of cutting the umbilical cord. It was an experience I will always cherish and never forget. As I watch him grow I often think back on the day I first held him minutes after his birth. I sang a song to him when I held him at two minutes old. It was the same song I sang to him while he was still in my daughters womb. I wanted to see if he would respond. I was not surprised when he turned his head toward me as if he recognized my voice, then tried to open his swollen eyes.

I also remember my surprise at the major differences between my daughter’s birth experience and my own when she was born. My overall feeling was disappointment. It seem that the birth was technology- controlled and my daughter was just a bystander, the same as Eli’s father and myself. We made it to the hospital when her contractions were about fifteen minutes apart. She had one really hard labor pain and they hooked her up to an IV and monitor. Within a few minutes she was calm and chatting with us as if nothing was going on. She only knew she was having a contraction when the monitor told her she was having one. The nurse was able to read the monitor and estimate a time the baby would be born and was accurate almost to the minute. My daughter never experienced labor as I remembered doing. Her father and I worked to prepare for natural childbirth and that is how we did it. The beauty of our birthing experience was the moment our baby was born, the pain and struggle immediately became a distant memory in light of holding our little girl. I often think my experience made me a stronger woman and strengthened the bond between my husband and myself. Realizing I could endure such pain, with joy, to bring my child into the world elevated my maturity level. Also it was an humbling experience for William (my husband/her father). He came to appreciate what a woman endures to bring a child into the world. At the end of my daughter’s birthing experience I was disappointed and left thinking that she has a baby, but missed the beauty of the whole experience.

After Eli’s birth an initial assessments were made that determined he was fine. My second surprise came when the focus immediately shifted from the baby to my daughter. It was not because anything was wrong, but because she agreed to donate the placenta for research. They wanted to harvest it safely so the baby, a nurse his father and myself were moved to another side of the room while my daughter and her surroundings were re-sanitized for the harvest. We held the baby before she did. Remembering back they barely let her father in the delivery room when she was born.

It seems that childbirth experiences in Africa are evolving the same as they have since my daughter was born and the birth of her first child. Traditionally fathers were not active participants in the birth of their children. Now African men have started to take more active roles like participate in classes and present during the births. Birthing experiences are also evolving from birth in huts to births in labor-and-delivery rooms designed specifically for natural births. I am sure as time passes and technology becomes more available they will also experience the change to painless childbirth.

Quotes

My favorite quote from people speaking on behalf of young children changes as I learn more about the field of Early Childhood. Right now I am inspired by the quote from Marian Wright-Edelman. It rings so much truth. As EC professionals we all should pay close attention to how our nation spends money and try to get more of it for the children who need it.

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